Gaslighting in Relationships: Recognizing, Addressing, and Healing from Emotional Manipulation
What is Gaslighting? Understanding Emotional Manipulation
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where one partner makes the other doubt their own reality, leading to confusion and self-doubt. It often involves dismissing feelings, rewriting past events, or making the victim feel "too sensitive."
Common Phrases and Behaviors That Indicate Gaslighting
Some common phrases used in gaslighting include:
“That never happened.”
“You’re overreacting.”
“You’re imagining things.”
“You’re too emotional.”
How Gaslighting Affects Self-Esteem and Relationship Trust
Gaslighting erodes trust and self-worth, leaving the victim feeling confused, anxious, and unable to make independent decisions. Over time, it can create a dynamic where one partner controls the other’s perception of reality.
Steps to Confront Gaslighting and Establish Healthier Dynamics
Recognize the Signs: Understanding gaslighting tactics is the first step toward breaking free.
Trust Your Perceptions: Keep a journal to document events and emotions for clarity.
Set Boundaries: Let your partner know what behaviors you will not tolerate.
Seek Support: A therapist can help validate your experiences and build resilience.
When to Seek Couples or Individual Therapy
If gaslighting has deeply affected your relationship, professional support can provide healing strategies. Therapy can help rebuild self-trust and establish healthier communication patterns.
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